Does a narcissist ever feel remorse?


need want to tell you a story.

There’s an old saying about not inviting the devil past your threshold. No matter your religion, or lack of, this is good advice. My recommendation would be to put it into terms you can accept and post it to the backside of your front door.

Recently a friend had the occasion to help someone. To keep this short I’ll summarize.

A situation was presented to this friend as a grave circumstance. A certain individual gave the impression of being 1.) Poor 2.) Ill and 3.) Incapable of helping themselves. All three of which were misrepresentations.

The truth was this: The person was 1.) Wealthy, 2.) Healthier than most, and 3.) Grotesquely selfish. I bet you thought I was going to say lazy for that third one, but lazy isn’t an accurate descriptor. It takes a lot of work to manipulate people for your own gain.

This story struck me as a good example of “False Christianity” and representative of the pitfalls of the “prosperity doctrine”. Now don’t get offended because I am not downing Christianity or Christians as a whole. I’m speaking of a specific person and a specific incidence. However, I am making a point to express that this person considers themselves the ultimate in Christian perfection – God serves them and answers their every prayer request. They will be the first to tell you that God is good to them – all the time – and their every need and want is met – I’ll leave it at that.

Now my friend tries not to judge people, although they admittedly fail at this and get very frustrated at times. That’ their fatal flaw and they never shy from being honest about it. However, my friend does believe in Karma and the great cyclical nature of the ultimate reality that keeps us in a constant state of entropy while convincing us we are actually in a state of great order. Hence the reason they always extend a hand when it is needed.

It’s been my friends observation that there is only so much good in this material world and  possibly a slightly greater amount of evil. Now, if you’re science minded you understand that for every action there is an opposite and equal reaction and my friend believes that without this slight difference in the quantities of  “good” and “evil” a certain equilibrium would be met and everyone would be destined to a pre-ordained position of either great happiness or great misfortune – so they embrace the world and themself for all of it’s imperfections. To say that my friend is usually quite loving and forgiving – would be an understatement.

So, what about karma? If you take from someone more than you need eventually the scales of justice will fight for equilibrium, right? Although good is not necessarily going to win, the fight itself is inevitable. It’s that fight that keeps the repressed, the abused, the damaged, and the hopeful from being crushed by the weight of social injustice. My friend has always been a fighter, but this time they darn near gave in.

I won’t go into great detail, but I will say that being in the presence of narcissist and convenience liar 24/7 can defiantly wear you down. You question your beliefs, your relationships, your insights and everything on which you have stood so firmly for however long. Eventually you are made to feel small, and if you’re not careful, you can lose yourself and begin searching for a more “perfect” identity.

Well, fortunately, things didn’t go that far – refer to above statement about my friend being a fighter – but, eventually they did quit caring about this person and started seeing them through the eyes of an emotionally detached stranger. That made my friend feel like crap for a while until they realized – this person is a narcissist! They don’t care what other people think anyway. They will just move on to the next person and keep bleeding all they possibly can from the world and that is exactly what happened. Fortunately my friend survived the experience with sanity intact!Which leads me to the question of the day?

Does a narcissist ever feel remorse? Is there ever a death bed epiphany like in the movies? Or in the end, does self-identification as the vision of perfection have its own self-fulfilling reward?

I read somewhere that the last image you see and thought you have is what a person carries with them into the next unknown reality. Then the wrong thought or any negativism, like extreme remorse, even regret, would equal a modified definition of eternal hell – AND IF THAT’S THE CASE – maybe being a narcissist, embracing the prosperity doctrine, and quite frankly not giving a flip about anybody but yourself is actually the way to eternal bliss.

Wouldn’t that make the realm of heaven quite a different place than we were taught! Something to think about.

I suppose we can only do what we are consciously capable of living with – so with that in mind – be cautious to whom you extend an invitation – and know when to shake the dust from your sandals! God is good, but right now it’s still the devil’s world – so to speak.





One thought on “Does a narcissist ever feel remorse?

  1. There’s a lot of it (narcissism) about. I wonder if there’s more than in the past? I doubt narcissists feel remorse, because they believe they are perfect, and remorse requires seeing that you’ve done wrong. I’ve heard the supposedly Buddhist idea that the last thought before you die dictates your next life. I don’t buy that. It’s a bit like the Catholic idea that you can do whatever evil you like in your life, but confess on your deathbed and still go to heaven. But then I don’t believe in rebirth or heaven. Hope your friend has recovered from that nasty interaction. It can be very draining.


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